My 16 year old now 17 year old....

This year is so full of surprises.

My youngest son has friends that I just don't like. I have never liked any of his friends. When I discuss his friends with him he gets very defensive and sticks up for his friends and swears he would "take a bullet for them." I ask him if they would do the same and he doesn't answer.

One friend suggested that they to go to the store so he could steal a scorpion and my son said yes so that he could steal crickets for his tarantula. Needless to say my son was arrested when he went back to the store and his friend he would take a bullet for left him high and dry.

My son was arrested for stealing $3.00 worth of crickets and he took the rap for the scorpion. He lives with his father (that is another story) and his father never took him to court on the proper day. A warrant was issued and my son turned himself in and was arrested a 2nd time for not appearing to court.

When he got the new date I took him. Now I am humiliated thinking I am going to know the judge or court clerks or lawyers because I was involved in the town and knew lots of people, but to my relief, I didn't know anyone. My son on the other hand, had friends there and as they came in they all said hello to each other as if they were at a social function or gathering. Then he also made a friend while there.

Next came the real good ones, the convicts in orange jump suits and they were shackled together from the county jail. My son had a friend in that group, and my son's best friend's step-father was there too. They all said "hi" to each other as though nothing was wrong.

I was soooooooo upset and my son couldn't understand that....Oh yeah, i forgot when we were first going into court my son was afraid, but after his friend cam in and told him it was my sons first time it would be nothing he had a big change in attitude.

Well he got off with a slap on the wrist although I told the prosecutor to give him at least community service and the prosecutor said no. I need to talk to him before our turn then he would have gotten some. I am fighting to get physical custody back of my son so we will see, pray for me.

His father really didn't think this situation was a problem and the fact that his son is smoking pot, got arrested, failed classes and summer school is no big deal. I guess I really know how to pick them...lol...lol...lol...lol...I believe it is never to late to intervene.

I can't go back I can only move forward. I did what I believed to be the best for everyone at the time I decided to let him move to his father's but circumstances have changed. I will do what I need to do for now.